Aight, so peep this: this Refuge joint droppin' knowledge, sayin' folks sleepin' on how many women still gettin' messed with by they exes. Word.

Check the stats: 42% of the women callin' Refuge sayin' they ex still be the abuser. That's almost half, fam! But get this, only 12% of regular folks think the ex is the problem. That's some serious denial right there. They think once shawty leaves, he just gon' chill? Nah, son, the game don't stop.

This sista named Sasha got her story out there. She split with her baby daddy back in '12, and he still* stalkin' her, harassin' her, showin' up unannounced. He even used pics of they son to find her new crib. That's cold, man.

They made that controlling behavior illegal back in '15, and then really illegal in '23. But laws ain't gonna change a dude who's already tryna play games. It's deep-rooted.

Charlotte Eastop from Refuge actin' all surprised that folks ain't seein' this as a big issue. C'mon, sis, where you been? The streets been knowin' this for years. These dudes ain't changin' overnight.

She also sayin' they be usin' the kids and the courts to keep the drama goin'. Facts! They try to manipulate the situation, get the kids on they side, make it hard for the mama to do her thang.

But here's the real tea: it's all about control. These dudes can't handle bein' dumped, so they gotta keep messin' with the woman, even after she's moved on. It's a power trip, plain and simple. And it's messed up.

So, what's the solution? It starts with the sista realizing her worth and not puttin' up with no more BS. Cut that dude off completely. Change ya number, move if you gotta, and protect ya peace.

And for the fellas out there: get some help, man. If you can't let go of the past, you need to deal with your own issues. Stop takin' it out on the women in your life. It ain't cool.

But for real, this is some real talk. Women need to be aware of this, and they gotta protect themselves. Stay woke, fam.

*Name changed to protect anonymity, you know how it is.

Bottom line: don't underestimate the crazy. Protect ya neck, queens.